Red Kitchenaid
Friday, February 10, 2012
Friday.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
A new kinda Hell
Sucker punched in the gut. I could not breathe. No feeling in my limbs.
It could be lymphoma or cancer .
WTF??
We had a flu/summer cold /allergy thing going around the Red household. I was down for the count for a few days. So when my son started complaining of feeling achy I just assumed he had the crud.
Ok think about this:
-18
-male
-yeah……
He goes to the doc. An infection. Take these antibiotics. All will be well. Come back if you have this.
He still had this. Doc couldn’t see him. Goes to ER.
FF a few hours. He is admitted and we are being told the worst.
His kidneys are clear,but his fever still spikes.
Then the Doc starts asking about Cancer history. O m G
I did not lose it.
See, I am learning about my strengths. This is not about me however. This about my son. My precious baby boy. Who was sick enough to actually go to the doctor. They admitted him. Ok, just wanna observe. Cool Beans.
Then this am we get this woman telling me my son may have cancer. OK CRAZYDOCTOR SAY WHAT??
He is fine. Let me get that out of the way.
But in this really warped small town that we live in, there is only one hospital. It is hit or miss. It can take some yelling to get someone who knows what they are doing and can string a coherent thought together.
So let’s get back to the story. I had come back to the house to crash for 20 minutes. I just craved my bed. I had not slept well for days. So I “just layed down”. An hour later Bill wakes me up saying his fever is still spiking, he is going to the hospital and will call me. Fast forward another hour, I call my son’s girlfriend and she says Bill just left, and she would let him tell me.
Now my hubby hates hospitals, I know this. But he was trying to be diplomatic to a point. Which came and went. He fired the doc, got ours in there and lo and behold, we find out it is a super strain of mono.
I have been to a place in hell parents never want to go. And I have a new respect and grief for parents with terminally ill children.
My boy is gonna be ok. But that doc will not after I talk to administration Monday. Just sayin………
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
Why I Can't Share.
My friend Vicki over at the froglicking place ( she does! I have SEEN it), invited me to join another blogging thing. It's basically about taking things back, I think. I am way medicated. Kidney stones n all. So maybe I can go and find it later for you.
Let me get to my point. I do not think I am worthy at this point in time of blogging with them. There are a few reasons and because I am a list maker and not sure of my coherence at the moment........ooohhh there is a kitty at the door....
- I am over 40. I have dealt with my pain in more ways than Carter has Liver Pills. It is not a new thing I am tackling.
- I was not abused in any way.
- My parents loved me. They may not have been perfect or the most affectionate, but I do know they loved me. Never doubted it.
- I am quite comfy in my birth order. And thanks to how my parents spread us out there really is no rivalry, we went on to bigger and better things.
- I can only blame my Mind Monster for the pain and suffering. I blame the disease.
- I do not blame God. These days I embrace the imperfections He gave me.
- THIS is the biggest one so pay attention. It may sound petty , trite, self serving, and kinda snobby but it is what it is.
I have hated everyone who loves me. I have burned bridges that took modern explosives to bring down. I have woken up shaken and dazed in a room at a hospital. And it was nobody's fault. The only fault was that I had not learned how to deal with my disease.
There are some awesome people out there sharing their stories. I have shared mine, just not in a printed format. I am, at the moment, beyond the pain. I can't dredge it up. Oh it will come back, and you bet I will be burning the midnight oil in a manic frenzy and wearing out Lulu's keys.
Unless you have dug yourself out of a dark, humiliating,lonely, and hellish place, you may not understand.I was blessed with so many things but I , for some reason, could not understand that. It was not an issue with my upbringing, it was a chemical issue. My chemistry is rather screwed.
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So there it is. I haven't got time for the pain right now. I do respect , love, and admire all of those who are telling their stories to help others. I just can't right now. Life is too good and I cannot even risk a tiny tear in the sheer gauze that holds me together.
Saturday, May 7, 2011
My Mother's Day Post.
Boots is a very private person. Yes I said Boots. That is her nickname. Seriously. She has a big girl name. Sadly it shares the same name as my resident ghost. There could be all kinds of psychological insight there. But this is a post about my mom. Not the remnants of whatever that lives in my attic.
Friday, May 6, 2011
As I told Vicki
But let me give you an idea of what I am up against.
And before you read this, I was tired and half tipsy. Punctuation and spelling is atrocious.
- my nana fell. It's was not so bad. She is tough at 89. But now she wants to give up.
- I live in a swamp. In south carolina. We do not even get a neat accent/language like the bayou.
- work is busy. they are actually making me work.
- there has been some other mess.
- oh and we are trying to bring our cool ass 1940's post war home up to code.
Do not use the microwave while the dryer is going. Mama loses internet because the fuses blow and Mama gets mad.
But I am back. Documenting why think I need a reality show. Seriously. The great thing about my family is they keep me in stitches. And booze.
This actually brings me to this. Please follow my convoluted thinking, my husband is in the kitchen singin Englebert Humpmydick. I should wonder?
I have a set of friends that I play this cute little pet game online with. And then I have these friends that are Death Hags. Let me Explain.
We know and will wager on the latest celebrity death. We seem to embrace all there is about death. Before you go "Oh you sick bitch" Let me splain.
See, we are more interested in how humans react to death. I can tell you what that Lamb symbols means on a Gravestone. It's who I am. And not because I am odd and twisted. Although I am, but it is not relevant. It is because I have had a sense of history taught to me since I toddled. YOU grow up in the 70's and 80's in Savannah GA and NOT take a trip to a graveyard or Massie School. So blame Sarah Parsons. And my parents.( they HAVE to be blamed)
These are also the people that understand why I tramp through graveyards and take pictures. And understand why I have actually sold some of these prints.
There is a lot to be learned from how the past generations dealt with death. The customs and symbols. I could and have written entire papers on this.
Here is my thing. These friends are starting to selectively merge. One notices one's humor and friends them. And then I realize that I draw to me people who are like me. Death becomes irrelevant.
And Death begats a new look on life. Kinda neat. I think it is.